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Finding love presents a great challenge for most of us and with it comes a lot of pain and heartbreak. Putting yourself out there is one of the hardest things anyone can do. Sometimes you will meet great success, but a lot of the time, you will experience rejection. Love is about opening yourself up and allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable. Love is not always easy to find because most of us are too oblivious to notice it or we're too busy working and too tired to try and date. Other times, we've just been hurt so much that we no longer even want to try and look for love any longer and many people simply give up. With that said, there are still plenty of others who are willing to try and find that special someone. Many people are turning to online dating websites or alternatively to Exclusive Matchmaking Agencies, which are a growing trend.
In light of Valentine's Day, I spoke with a friend who started Central Quest, a London, UK-based Exclusive Matchmaking and Introduction Agency over a year ago and has made his career all about helping people find their soulmates. I was intrigued to know the motivations of my friend who has personally made it his mission to help people find love. What lessons might we be able to learn from someone who is on the outside looking into our lives and is able to bring change to someone's life and help them find love?
This is my interview with him and I hope it may shed some insight into the world of Matchmaking.
Where are you currently located? Central Quest is based in Mayfair, London, UK. Our clients are based worldwide.
What is your official professional title? Confidant
Why did you get into this business? Because I realized it's my calling. We're all good at something, or a number of things, and I knew that the role of a Matchmaker would be perfect for me. In a role that is emotionally disattached I would be good at understanding and solving a lot of the challenges people face in finding romantic partners: assessing compatibility, spotting red flags, and figuring out who is really worth opening our heart to!
What made you interested in it? The media brought to my attention the existence of Matchmaking & Introduction Agencies worldwide and I instantly became fascinated with how they do their matchmaking.
How do you help people in this business? The 'help' that we offer comes in several forms because every client has a different need. Some clients simply lack the opportunity to meet people because they don't know where to go and don't want to waste time in going to the wrong places or talking to the wrong people. Others feel that the people they do meet are not compatible with them and seek us for our expertise on the matter. In the end, we provide the ultimate opportunity for people as we introduce them to someone who is thrilled to meet them, shares a lot of things in common with them, and is interested in a long-term relationship rather than a casual one.
Have you had success? Yes! Approximately 60-70% of our clients are in relationships.
What is the hardest thing about what you do? The fact that my clients are sometimes anxious to know what their dates thought about them (I receive feedback from both sides after dates so I do know). I then have to decide what information to share presently and what information to share at a later point in time. I also have to be careful as to how I disclose certain details so they are not accidentally used in a way that could harm the client's prospective relationship.
What is the most rewarding thing about what you do? Those instances where something I've said to a client suddenly clicks, their perspective changes, and they begin to view a situation or an event that happened to them differently.
What advice do you have for people looking to get into this type of business? Make sure you have the right personality - you have to be a good listener, judgement-free, and really know how to get to the core of peoples' romantic necessities.
What challenges do you think you will face in the future? Probably being asked to work with a client for a second time past their membership period because their relationship ended. That's something I hope will happen in the far future.
What advice do you have for people looking for love? Come to us! But otherwise - vocalize and memorize what is it you need and want from a romantic partner. The two are not the same. Be out there meeting people at least 2-3 times a week and don't hesitate to go on many first dates to expose yourself to different opinions, personalities, and situations. Most importantly, despite the fact that we should all be with someone who elevates our lives - make an effort to acknowledge that any person you end up with will have downfalls that you will have to deal with. Embrace that reality and learn how to compromise.
Thank you Ziv for taking the time to answer my questions and I wish you only success in your career and in helping many, many people find someone to love and someone to love them.
You can visit Central Quest at www.centralquest.com for more information and contact them either by phone or through the website for a complimentary consultation.